WTF, why is this so hard

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  • #6595
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    Why did I spend my teenage years and my 20s agonizing over getting pregnant – or not getting pregnant. I was conditioned to believe that if a man came anywhere near me with his ‘man tool’ (no shit, that’s what the health ed teacher called it) I would get pregnant. Any touches under the shirt – Pregnant! Massaging of any body part – Pregnant! Look admiringly at each other too long – Pregnant!
    Ok, so I may not have believed that at the time, my track record proves that (oops!) but I sure as hell never knew getting successfully impregnated would be this hard.
    I love my partner, I do, but there is something so functional about having sex whilst trying to get pregnant and functional sex is shite.

    #6597
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    Ugh don’t I know it! Sex isn’t sex it’s a chore and relentlessly testing with negotiate constantly is breaking me down

    #6599
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    Cat, it is hard to keep the motivation going, I hit 10 months this month, I know some people take years and others simply can’t. Atleast I am healthy, but shit, it’s still hard.
    We got to just keep going, knowing eventually we will get there…

    #6600
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    I have a one year old who took 10 years! I can’t wait another 10 years for another one! I’m 31 now 🙁

    #6601
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    Shit Hun, that blows!! How did you keep up the hope? Have you spoken to the doctors about it?

    #6602
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    I have POCS so that’s why it’s hard to conceive… I don’t know where you are in the world but I’m in cairns QLD and we don’t have many options for fertility docs here I’m waiting for a gyno appointment at the local hospital. I don’t know how I kept up hope… She was actually accidental after being together for 10 years my partner and I had a break for a year and a half and in this time I lost ALOT of weight due to well… That’s another story but I fell preg to a guy that I was seeing.. I found out when I was already 5 months preg! Me and my ex got back together bio father never to be seen again… So her we are on the merry go round AGAIN trying for our own child. Lucky we have our daughter he loves her just like he would his own.

    #6603
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    I am in Brisbane so not too far away 🙂 I hope you get that appointment asap.
    I am so glad that he stuck around, can’t have been easy for either of you. PCOS is a fucker! I am absolutely in awe of women who struggle through it. Is it manageable for you? That is perhaps a stupid question, what I mean is…is the pain manageable for you? I have endometriosis, but luckily only mild, it kicks me in the arse sometimes but apparently it isn’t too bad, for that, I am thankful.

    #6604
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    Periods are painful… When I have them which is a rarity maybe only 3 times a year… Oh babe you have a bad one Iv heard that is extremely painful! How about yourself have you been to a fertility specialist yet? Or have you had the ‘wait a year before coming to us’ story?

    #6605
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    They vary, I can go months having mild-moderate pain, then wham! get one that knocks me over, in bed for days and constantly vomiting. I have been really lucky with my work, they are super supportive and my boss knows that if I’m not in than I am out for the count.
    Yep, it’s the 12 month spiel, have recently changed doctors as I have lost faith in my old one, he didn’t seem to understand why I am ‘in such a hurry’…idiot. Apparently I am healthy and there’s nothing to worry about but he wouldn’t send me for a scan to check the endo.
    How long until you get an appointment? Is it worth coming down to Brissy to speak to someone here? I know that’t not sustainable to keep flying down, particularly with a 1 year old, the cost alone would be huge.

    #6606
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    Just seen your photo…she is a cutie!!!

    #6607
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    Lucky you have a great work environment that’s for sure, yeah def be getting another opinion. How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?
    No point In going to bris if I get out on an action plan which I want to be put on a particular fertility drug is have to be monitored regularly and have scan to messaure follicles and etc etc so yeah I’d have to be close to home 🙁 oh well wen it happens it happens

    #6609
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    I’m 31 too. Yea, that makes sense, is it covered by Medicare or will you be out of pocket?

    #6610
    Profile photo of Cat Cat 
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    Oh god no, not covered by Medicare at least not here anyway! Maybe some bigger places may like bris but yeah not up here, it would cost us about $400-500 each visit to the fertility clinic

    #6611
    Profile photo of JJ JJ 
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    #7334
    Profile photo of Fee T Fee T 
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    Haha yep! My King and I always joke about when we conceived our daughter. It was baaad sex for both of us! Best of luck, may your little one come along soon!!

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