How do i become a survivor?

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    Profile photo of Krys Krys 
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    This is a genuine question. I posted a while ago about being sexually assaulted 8 weeks ago. AT first i felt able to take some power back. i felt like “fuck him” and found strength. AS the weeks rolls by i find that the people around me dont understand the ups and downs of trauma and it seems like they want me to just get over it. My partner cant understand why im not handling things as well as i was when it first happened. more and more i find myself sinking into victim mode. i dont like this feeling at all. any advice from the queen village? X

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    Profile photo of Krys Krys 
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    #7074
    Profile photo of Flo Flo 
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    Hi Krys,
    First of all, jeez, assaulted! That’s scary. And not something to dismiss so easily. I think you were very brave, being so strong at first. But that doesn’t mean you’re not being brave right now. I think you need to see someone. Sexual assault is very serious and has severe consequences for the victims. So please tell your hubby to be more patient and supportive and find a specialist who can tell you how to become the survivor you want and need to be.
    I wish you all the luck! Love, Flo.

    #7076
    Profile photo of Krys Krys 
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    Thank you for your response flo. I’m seeing a cousellor and my “wife” (not offended by the hubby assumption) is frustrated because our lives dont stop just because this horrible thing has happened. i guess i just have to keep getting back up. We have 2 kids so there really is no alternative xx

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    Profile photo of Flo Flo 
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    Oh my, didn’t see the wife coming πŸ˜… Glad you’re not offended! I can imagine it’s hard for her too, of course. Which makes it even more difficult for you, and so on. I hope your counsellor will help you both through this. Good luck πŸ‘‘

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    Profile photo of Elena Elena 
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    I never knew people still have powers and make things happen this way. My name is Elena Alexandra, my Husband Alexandra left me for another girl for three months ever since then my life have been filled with pains sorrow and heart break because he was my first love , A friend of mine Stephanie told me she saw some testimonies of this great Dr. Luke Lele Spell Temple that he can bring back my lover within some few days, i laugh it out and said i am not interested but because of the love my friend had for me, She consulted the great priest on my behalf and to my greatest surprise after three days my Husband called me for the very first time after three months that he is missing me and that he is so sorry for everything he made me pass through. i still can’t believe it, because it highly unbelievable it just too real to be real. Thank you Dr. Luke Lele for bringing back my Husband and also to my lovely friend who interceded on my behalf, for anyone who might need the help of this great priest you can contact the great Herbalist and a spell caster on drlelespelltemple@outlook.com

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    Profile photo of PamB PamB 
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    Take it one minute, one day at a time. Being assaulted is an extremely hard thing to live with, if you are the talkative type of person seeing a councillor may help you could also try self defence/martial arts courses to give you a bit more confidence in your ability to defend yourself and feel more secure. Big hugs nobody should have to go through that.

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    Profile photo of Krys Krys 
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    PamB… thank you for your advice. I feel like im starting to get my head together . I started karate the week after it happened. Since ive started feeling myself slipping ive pushed myself to go twice a week and train most days. Im feeling more like my old self this week which is nice. Im not a talker and normally hold things close but have found this forum a bit of a life saver because of queens like u, so i truely mean it when i say thank you. Ive oinked myself with a sexual assault counselor so i hope that helps. Xxx

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    Profile photo of Boobsy LaRue Boobsy LaRue 
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    Hi Krys,
    I don’t have much to add, just wanted to say that Flo and PamB are really on the money with this one. And actually it sounds to me like you are coping really well. You are being open and honest and making active steps towards recovery.
    Recovering from assault is a long term thing. Give yourself time – lots of time. Even when you feel like you’re slipping back, believe me you’re not. You are working though it. You are already a survivor, every day, every minute. Even if you are lying on the floor in tears, unable to see the way forward, you are getting through it.
    All strength to you Queen.

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