Beautiful Georgie

When I first came to the school that my kids go to, Billie-Violet was in the same class as this very cool kid Georgie.

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Georgie’s mum Sunnie is the most lovely women, her kindness and generosity reaches everyone she meets, she promptly invited me over to her house and I’m not kidding when I say that she was the first (and last) person to ever bake me a cake for my visit. No shit, I almost died, even my mum has never baked me a cake (sorry mum but it’s true).

My dear friend Sunnie’s beautiful boy Georgie amongst other thing happens to have Autism.

When I recently asked her what the biggest challenge of raising a boy with Autism was and she responded that it was the judgements.



Comments like “control your child” and “what’s wrong with him” upset Sunnie so much in the past.

And I was shocked that one of the biggest challenges in a condition that we have no control over was also the one thing that we DO have control over, OUR behaviour.

It didn’t upset her for long, being a wise and resilient mum, Sunnie decided to protect her boy by arming people with knowledge,

she made these cards and kindly hands them out to the people her and Georgie meet.

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Sunnie told me that she now never apologises for Georgie’s behaviour, she just hands out these cards and always takes the opportunity to educate anyone on Autism and has such a positive and supportive response.

She told me about a time when Georgie was getting very agitated during a train ride, Sunnie was feeling really uncomfortable expecting people to get upset with him, instead she was blown away by a uni student Queen who said “it’s ok, I’ll play with him” and the two of them had a great time on the train jumping up and down, laughing. Georgie’s happiness is contagious and #queensrule

Amazing Sunnie had the following advice for anyone facing the Autism diagnosis,

  • Breathe.
  • Don’t waste your time blaming anyone or anything, don’t waste your time with questions like “why?”, use your time to find out “How” you are going to show your beautiful child the world through their very special eyes.
  • Make sure Science is backing up any theory or treatment you go with.
  • Do whatever it takes to make YOU happy, your child will be happy if you are.
  • Finally, embrace Autism. Be proud of Autism.


And as a mum who doesn’t have a child with Autism, I am so grateful to have friends open enough to share these experiences with me, I learn so much from friends with children who have disabilities and I am so grateful to have friends like Sunnie who are so open about disabilities because I have so many questions but I am always afraid to ask, I was even scared to write this post in case there was something that will offend someone or wasn’t written with the right terms.

But it’s a tribute to a dear friend who has inspired me and so I went ahead with it.

I love the cards she has made, I love that Sunnie has used her strength to change her situation and I love that we can use our Queenliness to improve other people’s experiences while learning more about Autism. 💗💗

💗 Con

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4 Comments
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    Petie 10 months ago

    I just want to take the time to thank you and your friend Sunny. I face this challenge everyday as my son is Autistic. He has such a gorgeous personality but we often face the same judgements daily. I have even had someone suggest I stop taking him out so he doesn’t have a melt down. The thing is sometimes his not affected but other times he is. I continue to take him shopping, to auskick, out for lunch so he doesn’t feel like his not included. The idea of this card is perfect for us and will be working on our cards this weekend. I love the idea and thank you again. ☺

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    Shannon Clement 10 months ago

    Thanks for being brave enough to share Georgie’s story. There are zillions of ways people get offended by terminology around autism but I’m glad that hasn’t stopped you from writing positively about it. My son is autistic and, through him, I discovered that I am too. One of the strangest judgements we face is that people will often recognise our differences but then, when I’m open about our diagnosis, refuse to accept it. It’s like seeing someone in a wheelchair, hearing they’re paraplegic and then calling them lazy for not walking (or their mother lazy for not teaching them). Queenies, the best, most amazing, awesome thing you can do for us is to accept us and teach your children to accept us. You might think Autism looks like a behavioural issue but what you don’t see is that we genuinely struggle with some things you consider to be common sense or instinctual. There are also things you don’t even notice, like background noises or lights, which drive our senses crazy. Georgie and my son aren’t being rude or naughty when they’re being loud or making odd movements – they’re doing what they can to relieve stress in a really difficult situation. And Sunny and I aren’t just standing idly by allowing them to become adults who do whatever they want – we’re working to help them manage their triggers and find better coping mechanisms every single day.

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    Janet Frankly 10 months ago

    Love your work Constance! xx

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    saggytitts 10 months ago

    thankyou, my eldest is autistic, and now an adult, her only friend spends as much time with her as possible, but she now works so has limited time available, due to people not knowing alot as my girl grew up she very much went into her own world

    remembering that not all autistic kids are the same is important too. and that there not all going to be a savant, brilliant at maths or something cause the ones that are not, get treated as extra leper like cause as one kid put it…your weird but your not even good at anything, so you should just die.

    her pragmatic understanding is very low, so while she comes across to people who interact for only a few mins she seems normal….but she has to have a carer cause she cant care for herself and doesnt understand instructions at all…….but because she seems normal people judge, and have actually accused us of rorting the system…my fault said the diagnosing doctor a ped from westmead, who said I was doing all the things he would have recommended so her behaviours were not obvious to others…she would go into her self rather than get loud..or just appear a bit awkward cause her answers to questions seems so off tangent..cause of cause she didnt understand the question

    we are now working through a difficult time, landlord is selling the house community housing trying to find us another one, she has to pack her precious stuff up but doesnt know were we are going , non of us do…her dad has just had a spinal injection, and my athritis is painful and she hears me sobbing as I pack because it hurts so much but there is no one else to do it..she doesnt know how to cope.

    Im so glad the world is changing for kids like my girl so things are better for them than they were for her,

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