It has since been announced that she was a victim of domestic violence.
Reading this I was instantly reminded of a case that I had read about from the UK must have been 5 or 6 years ago.
An English couple jumped off a cliff with their little 5 year old boy in a rucksack.
How horrific, what kind of parents would do something like this? The story was shared on Facebook many times, which is how it grabbed my attention. Of course I cried and judged the monsters who were supposed to protect their baby instead ended his short life.
The following day the story had progressed and further information was reported.
It became apparent that the couple who “murdered” their child in a joint murder suicide were actually grieving parents who’s little boy was terminally ill and discharged from hospital to go home and die peacefully surrounded by love and comfort. He died at 8pm that very night.
That was Friday, the three bodies were found at the bottom of the cliff on Sunday.
My heart still breaks for the grieving couple who obviously saw no possibility in ever moving past the pain, a couple who friends claimed did 150% for their little boy.
I think of this couple often, the main reason being that I am constantly reminded of the hate that the Internet inspires.
When the story was poorly reported on in the first days of their bodies being discovered the loathing comments of hate and disgust were pouring in,
“rot in hell you murdering pieces of shit”
Directed at that lovely couple for their family and friends to choke on.
Of course the comments were a different story the following day but not once did any of them read “I am so sorry for the hate I judged you with yesterday”
So now while I am horrified that a women has killed her own son, because we can all agree that it is an unfathomable act, one that we of sound mind can simply not fathom, I think twice before voicing my anger. I would prefer to honour that little boy by instead of reverting to an instinctual witch hunt of hate towards his mother, allow it to provoke me to learn more about PTSD and the ongoing effects of domestic violence.
Because we don’t know all of the details, stories change and truths are hidden, however we do know that spreading a message of hate won’t prevent it from happening again, but educating ourselves on mental illness and domestic violence might.